Ever since Mary joined her company two years ago, she noticed that she wasn’t really that welcome in the department, at least, as far as some of her co-workers were concerned. There was a small group of women that always sat at the top of the game before Mary came along. Excited and eager to prove herself, she actively participated in office meetings and made sure she shared her ideas and suggestions. Big mistake! Welcome to the world of office politics!
During meetings, rarely would they address her and ask for her thoughts. Whenever she attempted jokes to lighten up the mood, they would roll their eyes and ignore her. Things became worse when her boss complimented her for doing a good job on a client presentation. Now, she feels like a ghost whenever she is around them because nobody seems to notice her presence. Her boss told her to just ignore them but the situation has affected her morale and it is causing stress and anxiety.
If you happen to be in a room full of successful people, chances are, you’d notice that they all have a common denominator: They know how to get along with people. While you would notice that the people who are alone their cubicles or workstations, oblivious of the comings and goings around them, are the ones who can’t get along with others. This is a time-tested theory. Successful people are out having lunch with others. The ones you’ve never heard of, eat alone in the far corner of the cafeteria. That is the reality. When you fit in and get along with others, you can succeed and thrive in almost everything.
Whether you like it or not, interpersonal skills play a big role in the office. However, not all are aware or have the ability to get along with people at work. Here are some suggestions on how to get along with others:
Manage your pride. There is a possibility that you might be wrong. We all have had the experience of being criticized. Many of us initially respond by thinking – “Who do you think you are? or I’m better than you!” But, if the criticism comes from more than one or two persons, then you must learn to accept that the comments about you might be justified. Maybe your actions or how you conduct yourself in the office needs to be adjusted or modified so that you can get along with others.
Realize that some of us have bad days. Your friends and co-workers have lives of their own. If one of them is in a bad mood, it’s simply not your fault, and it’s not your job to cheer that person up. You simply have no control over those situations.
Be understanding. Strive to make friends among your colleagues. As the saying goes if you want to have friend, be a friend. It might sound old-fashioned, but it still works and is very applicable in the corporate world. If you want your colleagues to like you, be a friend to them. Be supportive. Offer your assistance when possible and appropriate.
Lastly, always look for the good in others. It’s no big secret. If you want to avoid conflicts don’t gossip. Even if you have brains and talent but poor in interpersonal skills, it won’t be fun working in the office when you are making enemies.